๐—˜๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ฎ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด or training session?

You offer feedback to your employee, let's say to Alex, a constructive, clear, and well-meaning feedback โ€” but suddenly:

- He crosses his arms and looks away.
- His tone sharpens as he defends his work.
- The room tenses up โ€” feedback has turned into a battlefield.

๐—ช๐—ต๐˜† ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ป?
Because feedback often feels personal โ€” even when itโ€™s not.

As trainers, managers, or leaders, your goal isnโ€™t just to give feedback โ€” itโ€™s to make sure itโ€™s received without triggering defensiveness.

So how do you turn feedback from friction into fuel?

๐—จ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—–.๐—”.๐—Ÿ.๐— . ๐— ๐—ฒ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ฑ โ€” a simple yet effective way to deliver feedback that builds trust, not tension:

๐Ÿญ. ๐—–๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ณ๐˜† ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—œ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ โ€” โ€œIโ€™m sharing this because I want us to grow together.โ€

๐Ÿฎ. ๐—”๐˜€๐—ธ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ ๐—ฉ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐˜„ โ€” โ€œHow do you feel about the project so far?โ€

๐Ÿฏ. ๐—Ÿ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ธ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฆ๐—ผ๐—น๐˜‚๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ โ€” โ€œHereโ€™s what we can do to strengthen this.โ€

๐Ÿฐ. ๐— ๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ฃ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† โ€” โ€œYour effort is clear โ€” letโ€™s build on it.โ€

Why does this work?
โœ… It shifts feedback from attack to collaboration.
โœ… It lowers defenses by starting with empathy.
โœ… It keeps the focus on improvement, not blame.

๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜: Feedback shouldnโ€™t feel like a spotlight on flaws โ€” it should feel like a shared path to growth.

So the next time someone bristles at feedback, donโ€™t push harder โ€” C.A.L.M. the conversation.

Because leadership isnโ€™t about pointing fingers โ€” itโ€™s about pointing forward.

By the way how do you give feedback without sparking defensiveness?

Letโ€™s swap strategies.

Abhishek Rajput
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