๐๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ป๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐ถ๐ป ๐ฎ ๐บ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด or training session?
You offer feedback to your employee, let's say to Alex, a constructive, clear, and well-meaning feedback โ but suddenly:
- He crosses his arms and looks away.
- His tone sharpens as he defends his work.
- The room tenses up โ feedback has turned into a battlefield.
๐ช๐ต๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐ต๐ฎ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ป?
Because feedback often feels personal โ even when itโs not.
As trainers, managers, or leaders, your goal isnโt just to give feedback โ itโs to make sure itโs received without triggering defensiveness.
So how do you turn feedback from friction into fuel?
๐จ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐.๐.๐.๐ . ๐ ๐ฒ๐๐ต๐ผ๐ฑ โ a simple yet effective way to deliver feedback that builds trust, not tension:
๐ญ. ๐๐น๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ณ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ป๐๐ฒ๐ป๐ โ โIโm sharing this because I want us to grow together.โ
๐ฎ. ๐๐๐ธ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ๐ถ๐ฟ ๐ฉ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ โ โHow do you feel about the project so far?โ
๐ฏ. ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ธ ๐๐ผ ๐ฆ๐ผ๐น๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐ โ โHereโs what we can do to strengthen this.โ
๐ฐ. ๐ ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป๐๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป ๐ฃ๐ผ๐๐ถ๐๐ถ๐๐ถ๐๐ โ โYour effort is clear โ letโs build on it.โ
Why does this work?
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It shifts feedback from attack to collaboration.
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It lowers defenses by starting with empathy.
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It keeps the focus on improvement, not blame.
๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐: Feedback shouldnโt feel like a spotlight on flaws โ it should feel like a shared path to growth.
So the next time someone bristles at feedback, donโt push harder โ C.A.L.M. the conversation.
Because leadership isnโt about pointing fingers โ itโs about pointing forward.
By the way how do you give feedback without sparking defensiveness?
Letโs swap strategies.
Abhishek Rajput
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